Being a woman who’s comfortable with her sexual side is a blessing, but every now and again, it’s also a bit of a curse. Sure, you get to have a ton of fun without worrying about the stigma surrounding women and sex, but you also have to deal with these struggles:

1. GUYS ASSUME YOU’RE ALWAYS DOWN TO BANG.

As a lady who isn’t afraid to let her sexy colors show, it can be difficult to ward off advances from guys you aren’t interested in. They assume that since you’re so “chill” and “cool” about sex that you’re pretty much always in the mood to bang. Well yeah, you are… just not with them.

2. GIRLS FEEL THREATENED BY YOUR SEX APPEAL.

You pretty much ooze sex appeal, and girls around you get threatened by that. It’s not even that you’re the hottest woman in the room — you just have this confidence that you’re sexy, and other people pick up on that. It used to bother you, but now you’ve accepted that some girls are gonna get jealous.

3. YOU THINK THAT AN APPROPRIATE CONVERSATION STARTER IS ASKING ABOUT SOMEONE’S KINKS.

You can tell a lot about a person by their kinks, but you’ve discovered that not everyone is as excited to share this information as you are. You don’t judge people for their kinks — in fact, you think it’s interesting and cool. Unfortunately, people get weirded out when you bring it up, so you’ve stopped doing it.

4. YOU SPEND MAD MONEY ON SEX SUPPLIES.

Toys, condoms, lube, costumes, you want it all. And you buy it all. And now you’re broke. Some girls collect mass numbers of shoes — you collect mass numbers of dildos.

5. YOU ACCIDENTALLY START TALKING ABOUT YOUR SEX LIFE IN FRONT OF YOUR PARENTS.

You’re so used to telling your friends about your crazy sex life, you accidentally start casually talking about it to your parents or even worse — your grandparents. You instantly start back peddling and say that it was actually your friend, but then you think “screw it” and bust out a feminist, sex-positive rant.

6. YOU DON’T HAVE A LOT OF GIRLFRIENDS.

You find that a lot of girls low-key judge you for being sexually driven, so you have trouble maintaining female friendships. However, you probably have a lot of guy friends who understand your high sex drive and promiscuous ways.

7. YOU GET A LOT OF NOISE COMPLAINTS FROM YOUR NEIGHBORS.

When you have sex, you go for it. You believe that women should be free to fully express themselves during coitus and won’t hold back your screams for anyone. Unfortunately, you’ve received multiple noise complaints from your neighbors, and now you’re kind of afraid the cops might get involved.

8. YOU FEEL SEXUALLY LIMITED WHEN YOU’RE IN A COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP.

You find it hard to stick with just one partner. Since you pretty much want sex 24/7, it isn’t fair to expect your partner to always be gung-ho to go at the snap of your fingers. You obviously love this person but find yourself fantasizing about having sex with someone else. It can make you feel eternally dissatisfied with whoever you’re with.

9. PEOPLE THINK YOU’LL SLEEP WITH JUST ABOUT ANYONE.

You have the reputation of being “sexually free”, so some people will classify you as promiscuous. You want to tell them that just because you have no shame in sex, doesn’t mean you’ll give it away to anyone. If anything, you respect yourself even more than people who sleep around, because for you, sex is important, and you only want to do it with the best people.

10. IT’S HARD TO FIND A PARTNER WHO’S SEXUALLY AT YOUR LEVEL.

You find yourself always on the lookout for that perfect partner who will let you do whatever you want in bed without getting judged. You want someone who gets just as excited as you do about trying new positions or slipping on a sex toy for role play. Once you’ve found this person, you know you’ve hit the jackpot.